embracing self pleasure
Masturbation is a natural and healthy aspect of human sexuality that has been practiced for centuries. Unfortunately, it is often surrounded by stigma and misinformation. As a sex coach, I believe it is essential to shed light on the beauty and benefits of masturbation. In this blog post, we will explore the positive aspects of self-pleasure, debunk common myths, and encourage a more open and positive conversation about this intimate act.
Self-Exploration and Body Awareness: Masturbation allows individuals to explore their bodies, discover erogenous zones, and learn what brings them pleasure. It is an opportunity to become more in tune with your own desires, preferences, and boundaries. By understanding your body, you can communicate your needs more effectively to your partner, enhancing sexual experiences together. I always tell me clients that it’s hard to ask for what you want, if you don’t know what it is you want. When we redefine and recreate their self pleasure routine; we learn WHAT we want and HOW we want it. HOW SEXY!!
Stress Relief and Emotional Well-being: Engaging in masturbation can provide a release of endorphins, which are natural mood boosters. It can help reduce stress, anxiety, and tension, promoting a sense of relaxation and overall well-being. Masturbation can also be a healthy coping mechanism for managing sexual frustration or emotional challenges. You know that sex afterglow? You can get that through self pleasure too! When you’re releasing that stress or anxiety through connecting to your body/genitals, you’ll find that your mood and glow turn up a few notches. You can get the stress relieving feeling from a slow masturbation experience or a quickie! So don’t add extra pressure on doing it forever, sometimes all we need is 10 min ;)
Improved Sexual Function and Performance: Regular masturbation can contribute to better sexual function and performance. It helps individuals become more familiar with their arousal patterns, leading to increased control over ejaculation and enhanced sexual stamina. Additionally, self-pleasure can help individuals overcome sexual difficulties, such as erectile dysfunction or difficulty reaching orgasm. I encourage self pleasure when clients are looking to heighten their orgasms and prolong orgasms! This is a great practice and fun way to mix up your masturbation routine. Start slow, build up, keep building until you’re feeling like you could finish; and then BACK OFF! YES! Slow down and build it back up. This could help you last longer with your partner later that night or next morning ;)
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Body Positivity and Self-Acceptance: Masturbation encourages a positive relationship with one's body. It allows individuals to appreciate their unique physicality, regardless of societal standards or expectations. Engaging in self-pleasure can promote body positivity, self-acceptance, and a greater sense of sexual confidence. SELF PLEASURE WILL ALLOW YOU TO GIVE GRATITUDE TO YOUR BODY! I love to say my body affirmations as I do my masturbation routine sometimes. It’s so beautiful to take time to touch, massage and love on myself often. I was working with a client who just had a baby and was nervous to self pleasure again, she mentioned her body was so different and she didn’t know if she’d feel the same as before. Instead of diving right into the toys and penetration, we decided to take some time to just massage her body with lotion and slowly build up to the “main event.” She ended up doing this for a couple times a week and realized her relationship with her body and self pleasure got stronger and more confident! AHHH I LOVE SELF PLEASURE SO MUCH!
Sexual Exploration and Fantasy Fulfillment: Masturbation provides a safe space for sexual exploration and fantasy fulfillment. It allows individuals to explore their desires, fantasies, and kinks without judgment or pressure. This self-exploration can lead to a deeper understanding of one's sexual identity and preferences, ultimately enhancing sexual experiences with a partner.
Let's address some common misconceptions surrounding masturbation:
a) Masturbation does not cause physical harm: Contrary to popular belief, masturbation is a safe and natural activity that does not lead to physical health problems or negative consequences.
b) Masturbation does not lead to addiction: While it is possible to engage in any behavior excessively, masturbation itself is not inherently addictive. It is a healthy and normal part of human sexuality.
c) Masturbation does not decrease sexual desire: Masturbation does not deplete one's sexual energy or diminish sexual desire. In fact, it can enhance sexual desire by allowing individuals to explore and fulfill their own needs. Conclusion: Masturbation is a beautiful and natural expression of human sexuality.
It offers numerous benefits, including self-exploration, stress relief, improved sexual function, body positivity, and sexual fulfillment. By embracing a positive and open attitude towards masturbation, we can foster a healthier understanding of our own bodies, enhance our sexual experiences, and promote overall well-being. Let us celebrate the beauty of self-pleasure and encourage a more inclusive and accepting conversation about this integral aspect of human sexuality.
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